First of all, I’m hitched and very gladly so. If my sweetheart is reading this, I am not hyping the old days before I met you. No, in reality you are the finest thing that happened in my life but way back when, before I met you, I used to enjoy dating sites, specially the free ones. The one thing I appreciated about them was the fact that you could easily essentially “surf” for date. I know -many of you won’t like this language or the characterization but that’s how I looked at it (in all honesty) back then. You could at a moments notice search thousands of single women in your area and sort them by aesthetics, age, gender, tastes, etc…and that in of itself was great. I would send someone a message introducing myself, usually by using an original subject line like “I’m all yours” or “2 reasons why we are going to meet” or my favorite “Do not open this if you wanna meet” yeah I know weird, contradictory but you have no idea how many girls would read that message and get back with questions. I invite you to try it.

Anyways, back to our theme. So, yeah, I appreciated those dating sites because you always felt like you had many options but there is one thing I always wished they had and that’s a feature that allowed for members to list what they wanted to do “right now”, today, tonight, this week, etc. What I mean, is that I really wished that the matching could happen based on activities you’d likely do with someone. For example. Let’s say I’m in the mood for a cup of coffee and that someone in my city is interested in a cup of coffee too, that the site hook the both of us up. Because, it’s all good to have tons of potential dates but its better to have potential specific dating activities. A girl might be interested in you for breakfast and not for dinner or a movie. You might be interested in someone for a makeout session but not want to take her to your girlfriend’s wedding. A woman might be ok with having you as a fitness buddy today but not the next day. She might want to go clubbing Saturday night but not Sunday. Men or women are specific about what they’d do, when they’d do it and the matchmaking sites out there should do the same. Lavalife.com doesn’t have that feature, neither do several of the other dating sites out there. It’s such a shame.

Actually there is a new dating site for city folks that is on the right track and that I highly recommend for people in Canada and the US. Wanna catch a game? Just a few clicks and you can find other sport lovers in your neighborhood. Wanna visit a museum this week end? Ditto! See how amazing this could be if one was actually unattached these days? (ahem, I’m not referring myself – just speaking figuratively).

Best of luck and I hope that being “available” and meeting new folks on matchmaking websites does the trick for you too.

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